Philly Baby-led Solids/Weaning

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A major concern and task of every parent or caregiver revolves around food. Sometimes the how and what of nourishing our children can be confusing or challenging. What are good foods to give baby? Should I let baby hold the food? What is normal? On top of our decisions, many times we face doubt, worry or criticism from others for our choices. This group is for parents and caregivers practicing a baby-led transition into solids to get support and tips or for people interested in learning more to hear from others and ask questions. This meetup is a vegetarian potluck in order to allow families to engage in the process and enjoy being together. Food for the heart, mind and stomach!

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  1. […] Philly Baby-led Solids/Weaning […]

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  2. Posted by Ciara on August 7, 2011 at 9:42 am

    For the past month I have been practicing BLS/W with my 9 month old daughter, and I’ve received some some criticism from my husband & in-laws saying. They are saying I should be feeding her on a more regular basis in order to get her to eat more solids. They also criticize her weight & sleeping habits and attribute them to her not eating enough solid food. I’m looking for support of other like minded BLS/W parents.

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  3. Posted by Ciara on August 7, 2011 at 9:42 am

    For the past month I have been practicing BLS/W with my 9 month old daughter, and I’ve received some some criticism from my husband & in-laws. They are saying I should be feeding her on a more regular basis in order to get her to eat more solids. They also criticize her weight & sleeping habits and attribute them to her not eating enough solid food. I’m looking for support of other like minded BLS/W parents.

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  4. Ciara, I don’t know if you read my BLS/W Reflections post, but I had to include my similar struggle in my introduction to the concept because it felt so important. (http://alivingfamily.com/2010/12/11/baby-led-solids-part-1-reflection-and-experience/)

    Developmentally my daughter is more than fine, but she continues to be small. I have a small child and have heard her whole life how small she is. This has meant questioning my choice to breastfeed, to allow her to begin eating solids when she was ready (at or after 7 months and really not nourishing herself with them till many months later). I thought the worried interrogations would end as she began to eat more (and nurse less, due to a pregnancy). They continue, however, because I allow her to feed herself. This means that she doesn’t eat when she isn’t hungry and she doesn’t eat what she doesn’t want to. It means that food might miss her mouth, or that she might put it in and spit it out or hand it to me (“don’ wan’ it”). I don’t force food in her mouth or try to bribe or coax her to eat. If she asks me to feed her (once in a while this happens) I do, and sometimes I ask her to let me help her because I just don’t feel like a big mess or I’m not sure she’ll be able to hold it well enough to eat (sandwiches, mostly).

    Anyway, I am blessed because my husband is supportive of this way of weaning/introducing solids and we can watch my daughter learn so quickly and master skills (using a spoon/fork, drinking out of a glass, chop vegetables etc.) by us getting out of the way and allowing her to do for herself. I imagine that it is harder for folks whose partners/husbands aren’t thinking similarly or in agreement. My only suggestion really is to research for yourself and share that with your husband. Ask him what his objections are — Is he concerned about choking? [Generally less with BLS/W] Or is it the mess? [Less over time with mastery over skills] Is he wondering if she is healthy? [Weight numbers don’t matter so much as change over time — increase in height, weight, skill development — and her demeanor.] Your husband might be afraid to follow your daughter’s lead for a variety of reasons; most people have not built a trust of children and babies because we are not encouraged to trust ourselves even. Your research and support/stories of other families as well as some attempts/observations of your daughter exploring and learning to eat could allay his fears, give you a chance to find solutions and offer him some support. I don’t know if you are co-sleeping or what that looks like for your family, but this process goes for sleeping arrangements, too, I think.

    Sorry to go on! This has just been my biggest challenge from the outside as a mother, of a small child. As a breastfeeding mother who trusts her child and her intuition, it is tough feeling alone or confused while I am trying to do what I think is best, natural and normal! Support and community are always helpful. I hope these meetings grow so that we can all share our wisdom and walk our paths with confidence, clarity and consciousness.

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